Attraction

One of my acquaintances asked me why someone who is single never seems to attract attention from the opposite sex. Yet, when the same person is involved in a serious relationship, others beat a path to his/her door. 

Some believe that when you’re in a relationship you have more self confidence, and therefore carry yourself with more pride. That may be the case; however, I believe it’s because most people want what they cannot have. There’s a certain mystery about someone who’s unattainable. This stimulates an interest that had not previously existed.

A friend of mine asked me what I thought of her getting involved with a married man. I didn't want to preach, but I had to say, "Don't do it!" Many a man has claimed that he didn't love his wife, and that he wasn't sleeping with her, simply to get into the other woman's pants. Please don't be that foolish. Odds are, he's lying to you. He has no plans to leave his wife, especially if he can have her and you too. Don't allow yourself to be used.

Communication is Key

One thing that keeps a relationship strong is open communication. Each person must listen to the other. Stop trying to figure out what you'll say before your partner finishes his/her statement. When you're planning your next comment, you're not really listening. Being heard is a critical component of any relationship, so listen carefully. You may be surprised what you learn.

When the Romance Fades

Gentlemen, have you ever wondered why the romance seems to have faded from your relationship? Consider this. How do you treat your significant other when no one else is around? Women enjoy the little things in life. Try opening doors for her. Also, women are verbal creatures, so talk to her, even though you may not be in the mood. Load the dishwasher without her asking. There is nothing sexier than a man who’s willing to help out around the house. Make a habit of wrapping your arms around her waist then kissing her neck without pushing for anything more. When you wake up in the morning, slip your arm around her and pull her near. In short, treat her like your sweetheart, and I guarantee when the time is right, you’ll be amply rewarded.

Ladies, having grown up with four boys, I was given advice on a daily basis. One of the things my brothers taught me was that when a man says the relationship is over, it is. Don’t beg him to stay because even if he does, you’ll have his body but not his heart. Let go and move on. I know it hurts, but better to hurt a little now and heal with dignity than to wait until he has taken your very soul and grieve in shame. The choice is yours.

Surviving Relationships: When the Honeymoon Ends

Surviving Relationships: When the Honeymoon Ends: First, let me begin by saying that I am not a professional psychologist. I am a wife and mother who has survived numerous trials during the ...

When the Honeymoon Ends

First, let me begin by saying that I am not a professional psychologist. I am a wife and mother who has survived numerous trials during the course of my marriage. That being said, every couple is faced with problems in their relationship. Once the honeymoon phase ends, the work begins. If you would like a rewarding liaison, start by asking yourself what you can do to please your partner. When you give of yourself, your significant will eventually get in the game and begin doing things to please you.